mistakes shouldn't be mistaken

"mistakes shouldn't be mistaken, but should be taken seriously"

 

Nobody is perfect. we all do mistakes and then regret. But the very important thing is learning from those mistakes. Everybody says. " people can make a mistake once and then they will learn from it and will never make a mistake again".  But it's wrong because I've experienced it and I assume you must've too. I do a lot of mistakes and then even regret a lot.

          I keep telling myself, " I should've not done that; I should've been more cautioned; I'm useless; I let everyone down". But you know what, that's fine, that's absolutely okay. It happens with everyone.             That phase comes when you blame yourself for your mistakes and there's nothing wrong in it. But it would be wrong if you get tormented by those thoughts.

            ' you make mistakes because of lack of knowledge.

you make mistakes because you're perplexed.  

you may make a mistake if your mind is not steady'.

so, once a mistake is done, it couldn't be undone, but you feel accused. At such a situation you should firstly calm your mind. you'll have to stop blaming yourself; instead you'll have to come to the positive side. " whatever happens, happens for good", you may have heard of this phrase. And for the past few days I've been giving much attention to this. And actually it's true. so just think, if you'd haven't done  any mistake. 

"how would you ever know that you've to learn from it?, how would you ever know that you've to be cautioned next time?". 

you should not regret, but should confide yourself about your mistakes. you should take a step ahead to change it. Mistakes are too important for you to know where you're going wrong in life. And that's why "mistakes shouldn't be mistaken".

by a person who makes lot mistakes,
sonali paria.

 

A letter to Bollywood

 

Dear Bollywood,

since I've started watching you, the only question that clicks on my mind is "Does any life gets that better?". you've given us variety of different stories but how does everything is so perfect there. you have portrayed love and heartbreaks both in a very beautiful way. But in reality it's exactly opposite. And even the college life that you have shown has given me so much expectations.

I can't forget the way Raj and Simran fall in love together and Raj fought for their love until she runs away with him and that's too with her father's permission. But it's difficult and very rare to find such stories in real. 

 

In kkhh, Anjali loved Rahul from the very beginning and she didn't married to Aman so that she could marry that boy who once broke her heart, strange right. Rahul once said, "Anjali, pyar sirf ek baar hota hai aur shadi bhi"

but he didn't proved his own sayings. But it's true that in reality, people love many people and now-a-days marriage also happens multiple times.

 There's thousands of story that you made and still making, some re-making also. I thought with times you'll change, but; the expectations increased more with films like om shanti om, ashiqui2.

where a big film star like Shanti priya is going at a date with junior artist like om, which is irrelevant to the reality. And on top of that; om re-born as om kapoor to take revenge for his love. The story absolutely amazed the audience but where we could relate to such stories,

And there's Rahul jacker a very popular singer fall for arohi; a middleclass girl with a dream to become a singer. Then to make her a big star like him, he ruined his own career. It's not just rare but this is not possible in real life.

I am not telling that don't make such stories but it gives us expectations and we start comparing our lives with life that you portray to us. we want stories with which we can absolutely relate to.

And here it doesn't ends, not just with love you have manipulated our mind also by showing your perfect college life. Be it 'Main hoon na' or 'student of the year'; the promp nights and all those Bollywood vibes that we got watching these movies. we never got it in real life, I swear.

we all had once expected that our dupatta may stuck to somebody's watch lol😂. And those romantic rainy dances were literally like some fairy tale to many Indian girls. That train scene is favourite for any Bollywood movies right; which Ddlj started.

The only thing I want to tell is that please stop giving us expectations. we start imagining the things which won't happen even in parallel universe😅

with love,

sonali paria

NATURE IS INDEFINABLE

The beauty of nature can't be defined but once you start loving it there's no going back. It is said that nature can heal you and that is absolutely true. When your feeling sad or having a hard day; you can just visit a mountain filled with green grass or a sandy beach according to your choice. you can spend your quality time with nature and you'll definitely feel lively.

From sun to moon, flower to trees, bee's to butterflies, rivers to lakes, ponds to oceans, mountains to beaches, forest to garden, birds to animals. They all have their own different identity and they all hold a special uniqueness which can't be found anywhere else.

It's tranquil and beautiful, peaceful and mesmerising. once you start exploring it, you will understand that it is not only good with appearance but helpful too. we all know rains gives us water, and water is life. Even the food we eat helps us to survive and even the oxygen that we get from trees are all major parts of the nature. In short, the credit for our survival goes to nature.

Many times we humans don't care about the nature and so it hurts us too. Because that's what 'karma' is.

we humans cut the trees for building infrastructures, but the trees are the reasons for rain to happen, and if there'll be no trees, then no rain' which will ultimately result into droughts.

or

we humans are the one's who pollute the seas/ocean by throwing litter and plastic. so it's punishment comes through tsunamis.

when any natural calamities happen we blame it to nature itself or some people blame their destiny, some blame GOD. But the real reason are we humans. We all should realise it as soon as possible that we have to stop harming nature. We together have to make the world a better place to live, which would require us to build more trees, clean the beaches, stop polluting oceans, and many such eco-friendly works. If we start putting efforts to do these things, that day will definitely come when the world will be at peace.

"love the nature and

nature will love you back" 

with love,
sonali paria 

 

 start loving yourself with all your skin

Don't let anyone defame you, pointing out to your skin colour

and if someone is doing that, just ignore it with all your mind

concentrate on what you love and what you want to do

stop giving attention to, "what the colour of your skin is?"

because you are not meant for that; be natural always

putting all that fairness screams will not make you worth it

because you already have your true self

just try to give time to the hobbies you like, so that you keep yourself

busy and your mind at peace

various people may taunt you
by saying that,

"nobody will marry you with that skin colour", or, "you would've been more beautiful if your skin colour would've been little lighter"

but you should always keep yourself focused on achieving your goals.

once you are much independent to keep your stomach filled, till then you'll not require anyone

and eventually if you will love yourself the way you are,  there would be definitely some one who'll love you the way you are loving yourself.

skin colour is an illusion, reality is your soul; which is pure than anything in this world

so, don't worry, be free and work on your happiness

don't pay heed to the toxic people who are already ignorant of themselves.

and always remember that you are beautiful, no matter what your skin colour is.

with love,

sonali paria